tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6032090700970936012012-01-08T20:38:03.077-06:00danielle andersnoreply@blogger.comBlogger311100tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-603209070097093601.post-59567930242944650362010-10-02T19:13:00.004-05:002010-10-02T19:36:20.932-05:00

It's absurd to say out loud, right? I sound like I had formerly been a superstar. Leading a professional sports team to victory, or a former rocker who used to tour the world and have fans doe-ding after her. Of course, I am none of those. But I mean it all the same. It's how I feel at least. At least tonight.I used to be great.I always had someone wanting to spend time with me, seeking my advice

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I have a sob in my throat this morning as I sit in the Sunday morning service. Vaulted ceilings. Pale yellow walls. A murmur among the crowd. A sob in my throat. I remember a time when the feeling of this morning - was the feeling of everyday. I hesitate to name it now because I once would have never even thought to name it. It would have been so common (not common as in cheap or unimportant

danielle andersnoreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-603209070097093601.post-67417963482822386372009-12-07T21:22:00.001-06:002009-12-07T21:24:44.373-06:00

Second in the series of three borrowed texts from Aileen Challies.http://www.challies.com/archives/christian-living/false-messages-ii-the-heart-of-rejection.phpWhen you thought about getting married and when you anticipated having sex with your husband, did you ever think about how often you’d be saying “no” to him? I know of a few women who decided before they married that they would never

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I thought that a few articles would be worth sharing. This one in particular will be of interest to you. It's located here: http://www.challies.com/archives/christian-living/false-messages-i-what-he-really-wants.phpI have taken the liberty of posting the article for your convenience. Solid. So grateful for resources like this.by Aileen ChalliesTim and I were in his office. He was leaning against

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danielle andersnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-603209070097093601.post-57206029487192620162009-10-27T19:54:00.007-05:002009-10-27T20:37:38.753-05:00

I also could have titled this post "Danielle." But I'd rather point to someone else.A friend recently showed me the news unfolding over the Baby Einstein videos. The CCFC (Campaign for a Commercial Free Childhood - and no they don't mean everyone should have Tivo) has been pressing Disney for sometime to either substantiate or withdraw claims that the Baby Einstein dvds will help make your

danielle andersnoreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-603209070097093601.post-62635187220356242292009-05-28T10:39:00.003-05:002009-05-28T10:50:34.382-05:00

Oh, dear ones! We have finally settled (sort of) in our new home in GA. It feels good. I had no idea the impact that moving would have on us, particularly now that we have a child. Seeing as this is our 4th permanent move (6th move) in 3 years - you would think that we would get the hang of it, right? That's what I thought, but alas - a child does through a big kink in the normal moving

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This house buying process has certainly put a little tension in the Anders household.This is the house we are supposedly closing on this coming Monday. Though the bank we are buying the house from has been saying "next week" for about 7 weeks now. I have to say buying a foreclosure has been a hassle. But we are praying that it will pay off in the end. It will be keeping our monthly mortgage

danielle andersnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-603209070097093601.post-17054342751902962912009-03-30T18:18:00.002-05:002009-03-30T18:32:35.579-05:00

I have been spending lots of time lately on my hands and knees, and no - I don't mean that in any kinky way what so ever.I am referring to my time with Jameson, my 10 month old, crawling all over the house and sitting on the floor together. He loves reading books together, and recently I have found myself growing tired of the books he has grown so fond of. In order to keep some sanity, I change

danielle andersnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-603209070097093601.post-54604238035390354112009-02-25T09:38:00.002-06:002009-02-25T09:52:22.110-06:00

It is better to live on a corner of a roof than to share a home with a quarreling woman.This quote almost sounds like something out a stand-up comedy act or some romantic comedy on TLC. It's not though. It is a verse from Proverbs, 25:24. I often get a laugh from it, but then gloss on to the next verse, but as I have been reading through Proverbs, I have noticed that this verse (and variations

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I have been trying to form a new habit of reading a chapter of the Bible out loud to Jameson and myself every morning. I thought an easy place to start would be in Proverbs. Seeing as there are 31 Chapters and all, I would make it my goal for the month.A few days ago, as we read Proverbs 15 - I was taken back as I read some wisdom for being good dinner company. Verse 17 reads in the ESV "

danielle andersnoreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-603209070097093601.post-37456083895603347432009-01-18T21:03:00.005-06:002009-01-18T21:50:54.219-06:00

Today started as any day. I woke when I heard Jameson, my 8th month old, crying. It was 5am. "Not bad," I thought to myself as I counted backwards in my head. "4, 3, 2, ... Wow, 10 hours! Awesome job Jameson!" I felt around in the dark for my Old Navy stripped bedroom slippers and slid them under the covers placing them on my feet. This is so that I don't get cold while I'm feeding Jameson,

danielle andersnoreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-603209070097093601.post-5010575004286672172008-10-27T16:34:00.004-05:002008-10-27T18:00:36.981-05:00

Newsweek contributor Lisa Miller, writes in the "Belief Watch" section - and her recent article was titled "What’s God Got to Do With It?:Her relationship advice is retrograde dross. Submit to your man, or at least pretend, and then do what you want."The "her" in mentioned in the quote is Victoria Osteen, the wife of teacher Joel Osteen. Lisa is referring to Victoria's new book "Love Your Life."

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I subscribe to a blog by Vicki Courtney (Virtue Alert) she does social commentary that is particularly directed towards the media and how it effects/portrays our youth. Often I find myself in agreement with her observations, but when we disagree - we REALLY disagree. A recent post of hers caught my attention though. I thought it was more than appropriate for our discussion.Recently a study by

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EmpoweringAre you having trouble connecting with your husband? Does he not really seem like your friend any more? More of just a roommate? Passing through the same space each day, but no real connecting?Here is a language topic that has particularly been on my mind lately. Having a husband in a line of work that demands he give respect to others regularly (even, dare I say it, others who don't

danielle andersnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-603209070097093601.post-87621785994092175352008-08-03T16:00:00.002-05:002008-11-12T19:22:20.636-06:00

My husband came across this image on a sight which combines humor with science and philosophy. He is a nerd. Anyway - as soon as he called me over to see the picture I could see where this was going.We laughed together then he asked " I wonder how many of the women you are friends with make their husbands perform trick after trick in order to have a little intimacy?"What a wonderful question!

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What We SayDo you remember the scene in "You've Got Mail" when Meg Ryan says that she wishes she could say exactly what she wanted to say when she needed to say it? Then Tom Hanks replies that he is the guy who can articulate well, quickly, and often - with regret. Which category do you fall into?I am certainly the later, at least - most often. I find myself able to find the near perfect words

danielle andersnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-603209070097093601.post-87135349985627373312008-07-24T16:43:00.002-05:002008-07-24T16:46:30.883-05:00

I have decided to take a new approach to the blog. I will do my best to keep my posts a little more concise and perhaps work out a topic over the course of a month, rather than pack it all into one entry. Hopefully this will give everyone more opportunity to process what we talk about and also to ask more specific questions.The goal will be every Thursday.Adding the new baby to the mix will

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Just a notice that I will soon be writing weekly again. Please feel free to email any topics you would like us to talk about.daniellelaur@gmail.comalso, please pass on this to your friends. The more people we have involved in the discussion - the better!Just Subscribe to the Post and you (or they) will get regular updates automatically.Talk to you next week!

danielle andersnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-603209070097093601.post-29796917908187297132008-03-09T21:01:00.005-05:002008-03-10T17:21:44.552-05:00

I am heading to SC this weekend with Lance. We have a baby shower. Wow. We are having a baby.Anyway, I will be away for a while. We are moving in just 2 weeks to Oklahoma. This may be the last post for a while. I did want to end on a significant note. A note which I could do well to dwell on. Respecting our husbands.I plan on doing this talk of "respect" in several parts. The first to be

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Do you enjoy making love? and Does your husband know?The time that has passed between the last entry and now has been extensive. Due to the baby growing in my womb, my schedule has been dictated by many extraneous factors. Now perhaps we can get back to our conversation. These two questions "Do you enjoy sex? and Does your husband know?" are very sensitive. Though past topics have been

danielle andersnoreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-603209070097093601.post-29759054018937092122007-10-03T21:04:00.001-05:002007-10-03T21:05:24.580-05:00

For now ( some undetermined about of time) I will not be writing. Life has gotten busy. I will have to stop writing. But only for a time.... only for a time.

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Before we got married, I made it my personal goal to initiate love making once a week. I do not mean suggesting some sort of hang-out time or date night - I mean, I make the first move to get us to the bed room and I take the first steps toward being naked. Ha! Glad we are all friends here. What I mean to communicate is this - Your husband will notice when you are overtly initiating. He may

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Dates. Dates. Dates. So the general responses to the idea of "dating" your husband have a pretty large range. Some women laugh and respond with "who had time for that?" - others might argue "who had money for that?" I think these two complaints weak and apathetic. Another might argue that they still have a "flame" so there really is need for that extra bit of romance and effort. And yet,

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So, I told you I would answer the questions posed in a previous post "Methodical Love Making." I will anticipate that my answers will be much shorter and concise than desirable, but I hope that they present opportunity for a launching point in more conversation. Nothing stated here is final - just conclusions I have come to. I am more than happy to provide sources (as stated before) for

danielle andersnoreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-603209070097093601.post-2588934258650282192007-08-21T08:11:00.001-05:002007-08-21T08:12:27.340-05:00

before I continue with this blog thing - this week is to gather information.What are some topics you all would like to cover?

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The last entry we talked about how Methods are good in forming habits that will transform the way we think and act. This next topic will be, nearly, the opposite. We are going to discuss the dangers of having a set pattern in love making.I recently spent time with a couple who have horrible communication skills. They can interact with total strangers, speak in front of large groups with

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As I have processed things in the past week, and prayed for my own marriage and the marriages of our friends (you guys) - I have been reminded again of the importance of the last entries truths.Oh, how easy it is to forget that we are not in control. We might saying it in conversations, but the depth of the truth of our reliance on God's mercy has never really penetrated most of our hearts. We

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Grateful that I am not the True Teacher. As I lay in bed last night responding with disrespect and frustration, I realized that I was falling into the cycle. I was playing all my best cards to make sure that the conversation ended exactly as I wanted it to, and if necessary I would play my trump card. “I had wanted to make love, but now…” And then I realized the schemes of my old man rearing

danielle andersnoreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-603209070097093601.post-58134980841986864382007-07-05T09:23:00.000-05:002007-07-07T18:25:50.954-05:00

My logic in love is very distorted in Lance's eyes (as it should be, because I'm pretty much distorted). You see, I think that I can be a good psychologist and use negative reinforcement and drive him away from bad habits (meaning, things I don't like). He doesn't put up his clothes, I complain. He forgets to clear the table, I say I can't come play because I have extra work to do now. He

danielle andersnoreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-603209070097093601.post-76074178464030624522007-06-28T09:23:00.000-05:002007-06-28T09:36:31.551-05:00

It has been my experience, albeit very limited experience, that marriage can be the most delightful and natural experience for one person - yet, to another, the most effort full and condemning. Recent conversations with several couples have motivated me in several aspects. One being contemplation and thanksgiving. Another prayer and meditation. And still another - consultation.This blog is the

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